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Failure isn't the end...

Wow! I just looked at the last blog and it was August of last year!!! I am so sorry- I said I was gonna do better, but I didn't.

Well no need to cry over spilled milk- I'm back lol!

Happy 2022! This year has been going so fast, sometimes I don't know if I'm coming or going. But it's been great so far.

As far as the journey to fertility....we're still in this thing. I ended the last blog with the plan to move towards IUI.

IUI is what people like to call the "turkey baster" method. They collect a sample from the man and insert it into the woman's uterus while ovulating in hopes that the sperm and egg meet to form a baby. My husband had to take vitamins to enhance the activity of his sperm. I had to take medication to help me mature more eggs than normal, then a shot to release them at a certain time. The medication made me have cramps- like period cramps. Then the trigger shot also made me have craps. It wasn't a pleasant experience. It was super expensive (so I thought at that time). But whatever we had to do to get Baby Pettus, we were willing.

We tried it- the day before Thanksgiving 2021. It failed. We we're sad. We decided to take another break. It was all just too much.

During our break we found a urologist for my husband. I continued to see my OB/GYN and the fertility specialist. We made a plan and we are well on our way.

We had to realize that failure wasn't the end. If we would have quit after failure, we wouldn't be where we are today. No we don't have our baby yet- but we are a lot closer than when we first started. Failure actually set us up for success.

Sounds cliché and corny, I know. But If we didn't fail at trying to get pregnant naturally, we wouldn't have discovered underlying health issues we both are experiencing. If we didn't have a unsuccessful IUI, we would've never found the most outstanding Urologist- that has our best interest in mind. He is super determined to make us a baby :).

I'm grateful that our failures have opened doors for us that wouldn't have opened if we were successful with THE WORK OF OUR OWN HANDS.

Pause for the cause: Ya'll we out here trying to live our lives outside of God. When I tell you- He had to pull me in! Babeee I was out on a paddle board in the middle of the ocean, with no paddle. Sis was gone- headed for destruction. Just because I thought I knew it all.

We all get like that sometimes....

But our failures- ultimatley led us to God. Led us to God's plan and opened our ears to hear him clearly and our hearts to love him more deeply.

Look at areas you've failed. What did it teach you? What opportunities did you gain to get closer to living out his intended plan for your life?

In the words of my fine Husbae- Let's live according to God's divine intelligence. Follow His plan and let him lead to way. No failure lives in Him.

Continue to read the blog and walk through life and infertility with me! I am so glad to share this space with you! Know that your words form your life. Speak out loud what God says about you. Walking into the place Holy Spirit has given you insight and direction so that we can fulfill his word and conquer every place our feet tread.


"Every place that the sole of your foot will tread upon I have given to you, just as I promised to Moses." Joshua 1:3

I love you girl,

Mell P.

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